Hello, goodbye, hello, goodbye….

The boyfriend candidate and I broke up about a week ago. Again. We do this about every three weeks, and we’ve each totally lost credibility with each other on the break up front. This time I was picking on him -- pretty much all day -- most likely as a result of general frustrations with the relationship. I was indirect, provocative and uncommunicative. So we got in a fight. He called me an ugly name. And then defended it when I graciously gave him a chance to retract. I was done.

So a week goes by and in that week I’ve been really asking myself hard questions about why I’m dating in the first place. Are my frustrations with the relationship because it doesn’t serve a purpose relevant to my life any more? I think I’m on to something.

I’m 46. I have three small children who deserve my time and energy. Now that I’m working, which means I can provide everything I and my children need, I’m not looking for a man to save me/us, to be the responsible party or to fund us, if you will. I’m in bed weeknights at 8pm because I’m up at 4:45am. When exactly am I suppose to nurture an adult relationship anyway? So seriously why am I dating at all?

Sex is an obvious answer. Adult companionship generally. To be adored in that way a man adores you has particular attractiveness to me. And you know I got all those things from the boyfriend candidate. What I didn’t get that was frustrating me was “traditional marriage material.” He isn’t that Prince Charming. He’s a salty old curmudgeon, truth be told. But you know, I don’t think I really need Prince Charming. I think that is an old dating loop from my early twenties that I’ve fallen back to.

I can reinvent the adult relationship now. So I’m taking some time to figure out what that will look like at this point in my life. Naturally I spoke with boyfriend candidate and, as usual, we’re back together. This time I am relieving him of those traditional expectations which aren’t relevant (or possible) any longer. Honestly, he never thought we split up which slightly irks me. I did make a dramatic exit.


This information is solely for informational and educational purposes only. The publication of this information does not constitute the practice of medicine, family planning, child psychology, marriage counseling and this information does not replace the advice of your physician or other health care or mental health care provider. Neither the owners or employees of NaturalFamilyOnline.com or the author(s) of site content take responsibility for any possible consequences from any treatment, procedure, exercise, dietary modification, application of medication or any other action involving the care of yourself or any family members which results from reading this site. It is always best to speak with your primary health care provider before engaging in any form of self treatment. Additional information contained in our Legal Statement

What does your weekly dinner look like?
The whole family dines together at home
The whole family dines together at a restaurant
Parents and children eat separately
Whoever is around eats together
Every family member for themselves!
Total votes: 5755