How you lose your virginity could set a tone for life


Your first sexual experience can have lasting consequences, setting the tone for a life’s worth of sexual experiences. .

The first time really is a big deal

“The loss of virginity is often viewed as an important milestone in human development, signifying a transition to adulthood,” said Matthew Shaffer, a doctoral psychology student at UT and C. “However, it has not been studied in this capacity. We wanted to see the influence it may have related to emotional and physical development.”

Long-term emotional satisfaction with feelings of love

The researchers looked at how first-time sexual satisfaction impacts long-term sexual function. They also considered how first-time physical and emotional responses affect long-term sexual experience. Not surprisingly, they found that first time satisfaction were predictive of physical and emotional satisfaction. Those people who felt loved and respected by their partner found more long-term emotional satisfaction with their sexual encounters.

Researchers asked 331 young men and women about their experience losing their virginity. They ranked the experience according to emotions related to anxiety, contentment and regret. They also answered questions about their sex life using scales to measure sense of control, satisfaction and well-being. They also were asked to keep a diary recording details of any sexual experiences they had during a two week period.

Long-term dysfunction associated with anxiety and regret

Those who recorded the most satisfaction were also the ones who had the most emotionally satisfying first-time experience. The converse was true as well: those with the highest anxieties and regrets had lower overall sexual functioning. “While this study doesn’t prove that a better first time makes for a better sex life in general, a person’s experience of losing their virginity may se the pattern for years to come,” said Shaffer.

It could be that during that first time a general pattern of thought and behavior is formed around sexual experience which guides future experience.

Source: MedicalNewsToday, Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy


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