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Breastfeeding Your Toddler — Why on Earth?



By Dr. Jack Newman

Because more and more women are now breastfeeding their babies, more and more are also finding that they enjoy breastfeeding enough to want to continue longer than the usual few months they initially thought they would.

UNICEF has long encouraged breastfeeding for two years and longer, and the American Academy of Pediatrics is now on record as encouraging mothers to nurse at least one year and as long after as both mother and baby desire. Even the Canadian Paediatric Society, in its latest feeding statement, acknowledges that women may want to breastfeed for two years or longer.

Breastfeeding to 3 and 4 years of age has been common in much of the world until recently, and it is still common in many societies for toddlers to breastfeed.

Why should breastfeeding continue past six months?
Because mothers and babies often enjoy breastfeeding a lot. Why stop an enjoyable relationship? And continued breastfeeding is even good for the health and welfare of both the mother and child.

But it is said that breast milk has no value after six months.
Perhaps this is said, but it is wrong. That anyone (including pediatricians) can say such a thing only shows how ignorant so many people in our society are about breastfeeding. Breast milk is, after all, milk. Even after six months, it still contains protein, fat, and other nutritionally important and appropriate elements which babies and children need. Breast milk still contains immunologic factors that help protect the baby.

In fact, some immune factors in breast milk that protect the baby against infection are present in greater amounts in the second year of life than in the first. This is, of course as it should be, since children older than a year are generally exposed to more infection. Breast milk still contains factors that help the immune system to mature and that help the brain, gut, and other organs to develop and mature.

It has been well shown that children in day care who are still breastfeeding have far fewer and less severe infections than the children who are not breastfeeding. The mother thus loses less work time if she continues nursing her baby once she is back at her paid work.

It is interesting that formula company marketing pushes the use of formula (a very poor copy of the real thing) for a year yet implies that breast milk (from which the copy is made) is only worthwhile for six months or even less (”the best nutrition for newborns”). Too many health professionals have taken up this absurd refrain.

I have heard that the immunologic factors in breast milk prevent the baby from developing his own immunity if I breastfeed past six months.
This is untrue; in fact, this is absurd. It is unbelievable how so many people in our society twist around the advantages of breastfeeding and turn them into disadvantages. We give babies immunizations so that they are able to defend themselves against the real infection. Breast milk also helps the baby to fight off infections. When the baby fights off these infections, he becomes immune. Naturally.

But I want my baby to become independent.
And breastfeeding makes the toddler dependent? Don’t believe it. The child who breastfeeds until he weans himself (usually between 2 to 4 years) is generally more independent — and perhaps more importantly, more secure in his independence. He has received comfort and security from the breast until he is ready to make the step himself to stop. And when he makes that step himself, he knows he has achieved something, he knows he has moved ahead. It is a milestone in his life.

Often we push children to become “independent” too quickly. To sleep alone too soon, to wean from the breast too soon, to do without their parents too soon, to do everything too soon. Don’t push and the child will become independent soon enough.

What’s the rush? Soon they will be leaving home. You want them to leave home at 14? If a need is met, it goes away. If a need is unmet (such as the need to breastfeed and be close to mom), it remains a need well into the childhood/teenage time.

Of course, breastfeeding can, in some situations, be used to foster an overdependent relationship. But so can food and toilet training. The problem is not the breastfeeding. This is another issue.

What else?
Possibly the most important aspect of nursing a toddler is not the nutritional or immunologic benefits, important as they are. I believe the most important aspect of nursing a toddler is the special relationship between child and mother. Breastfeeding is a life-affirming act of love. This continues when the baby becomes a toddler.

Anyone without prejudices who has ever observed an older baby or toddler nursing can testify that there is something almost magical, something special, something far beyond food going on. A toddler will sometimes spontaneously, for no obvious reason, break into laughter while he is nursing. His delight in the breast goes far beyond a source of food. And if the mother allows herself, breastfeeding becomes a source of delight for her as well, far beyond the pleasure of providing food.

Of course, it’s not always great, but what is? But when it is, it makes it all so worthwhile.

And if the child does become ill or does get hurt (and they do as they meet other children and become more daring), what easier way to comfort the child than breastfeeding? I remember nights in the emergency department when mothers would walk their ill, non-nursing babies or toddlers up and down the halls trying, often unsuccessfully, to console them, while the nursing mothers were sitting quietly with their comforted (if not necessarily happy) babies at the breast. The mother comforts the sick child with breastfeeding, and the child comforts the mother by breastfeeding.

© Jack Newman, M.D.

Questions? Call Dr. Newman at (416) 813-5757 (option 3), or e-mail [email protected]. Read Dr. Jack Newman’s Guide to Breastfeeding (called The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers in the United States), and visit his website.

6 Responses to “Breastfeeding Your Toddler — Why on Earth?”

2 Victoria says:

As a breastfeeding mother of a 23 month old…I couldn’t agree with this article more. Especially about when your baby or toddler is sick…there is NOTHING the breast can’t fix!!! Breastfeeding for me has become a beautiful long-term part of my life!

3 C says:

Thank you. I feel so affirmed! Thank you so much.

4 Michelle says:

It is so aggravating to me when my family (mom and sisters) make fun of me for still breastfeeding my 2-year-old. He isn’t ready to stop yet, and it is still a bonding time for us. Everybody has an opinion about this issue, and everyone thinks that their opinion is right.

5 Annie says:

Nice article! I already know the benefits but I need to remind myself from time to time when criticism gets in the way. Still happily nursing my 17 month old daughter!

6 Liz Cazares says:

I have to say that while I agree with what is being said, I nurse my 13 month old still. I am not sure I am comfortable with a toddler asking me for breast milk, if I know they are capable of drinking milk. I know my husband dislikes the idea very much. As of right now, he doesn’t seem to want to wean. He feeds in the a.m. and before bed. Some days before naps. If he had it his way he would have it 24 -7 still. I manage to distract him and offer other things. I just realized that when he asks to BF, he uses it synonymously with hunger. So I have started offering other things at these times. I am not sure if we are on the right path and while I do not want to upset my boy by making him wean to early. I am not sure how much more I want to do this.

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